WISDOM OF THE SAGE (THE TWO DOGS)


THE TWO DOGS






WISDOM OF THE SAGE (LESSONS FROM THE GUANGZHOU BANK ROBBERY)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (THE BLACK DOT)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (LOVE STAYS)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (WE ARE NEVER ALONE)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (HOW TO CHANGE THE WORLD)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (THE SHORTEST AUTOBIOGRAPHY)


WISDOM OF THE SAGE (KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM)















Talking to his grandson about how he felt. A grandfather once said, "I feel as if I have two dogs fighting in my heart. One dog is the wicked, angry and violent one. While the other dog is the loving, compassionate and caring one." The grandson asked him, "grandpa, which dog will win the fight in your heart?" The grandfather answered: "The one I feed."

This story is loaded with many lessons one of which is the fact that the way we live our lives is primarily linked to what energy we feed. What energy do you feed? the good or the evil.
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OVERCOMING SHYNESS (MALE TO FEMALE)
Maybe she’s with friends.
Maybe she has a boyfriend.

She probably wouldn’t like you anyways.
Let’s just watch her and see if anyone comes and talks to her.
She’s probably stuck up anyways.
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This is what goes through your mind when you see a beautiful girl.
I know, because I used to think these things.
This is an ACTUAL PHOTO of the girl of my dreams.
Yes, this actual scenario happened to me.
I had the opportunity to talk to her.

You know how long it took me to walk up to her?
5 seconds.
You want to know why I didn’t hesitate?
Because I had practiced for this thousands of times.
I was prepared.
And I was lucky enough to have her cross my path when I was ready to meet her.
This is Alina. My girlfriend.
Think of all the girls that you’ve seen that were so beautiful, they stopped you in your tracks.
How many times did you hesitate to talk to them?
Did you ever go up and talk to them?
If you never want to hesitate again, Read on.
Here are the things I did to prepare me to meet Alina.
Step 1: HOW TO START A CONVERSATION
I've missed over 9,000 shots in my career. 
I've lost almost 300 games. 
26 times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. 
I've failed over and over and over again in my life. 
And that is why I succeed
~ Michael Jordan
How many times a day do you talk to people you don’t know?
I’m not talking about someone you think is attractive.
I’m talking about the mailman, the coffee barista, the janitor, the person standing next to you on the bus.
If you’re not talking to people EVERYDAY, how do you expect to be ready to talk to your dream girl / boy when they walk by?
When I realized this, I made a goal to speak with someone new EVERY day.
This is what you need to do TODAY.
After you read this post, talk to the next person you see.
If you’re in a cafe, ask someone to pass the salt.

If you’re on the subway, offer someone your seat.
If you are walking on the street, ask someone for directions.
To goal of this daily exercise is to get you used to talking to people.
Start off by talking with people you AREN’T scared of.
Here is the EXACT strategy I used when I met Alina.
Countdown from 5. (I learned this from Mel Robbins: Science Says This 5-Second Rule Will Make Your Brain Stop Procrastinating (Thomas K.)
When I saw Alina, I felt my heart stop.
Before I could come up with all the excuses that would talk me out of talking to her, I automatically began counting down from 5.
I had done this thousands of times before, and ingrained an automatic reaction to when my countdown would end.
I knew it was time to go.
Use the 5 second rule every time you see someone you want to talk to.
Once you do this, you are ready for STEP 2.
STEP 2: HOW TO HAVE A CONVERSATION
So you breezed through step 1, huh?
Wasn’t so bad right?
Time to start growing faster.
If you think this is dumb, just remember how you felt the last time you wanted to talk to a beautiful girl.
Ready to get to work?
Good.
Step 2, you’re going to continue your conversation with the person you talked to from Step 1.

Ask them 3 more questions about ANYTHING.
Doesn’t have to be related, yet.
Once you become more comfortable, start tying the questions together to help you dig deeper.
This is how you have a CONVERSATION.
Don’t ask them yes or no questions, ask them OPEN ENDED QUESTIONS .
Here are some examples:
If you’re in a coffeeshop:
“I usually order a normal coffee. But today I want to switch it up. What do you normally drink?”
If you’re walking on the street:
“I need to get my mom a birthday present. I really like your shoes. Where did you get it?”
Not sure if you see a pattern here, but I’ll explain it.
If you notice, I’m giving an explanation as to WHY I’m asking them a question. If you give them a reason for why you are talking to them during this step, they will not have their guard up as much.
Check this scenario:
If I walk to up to a girl on the street and just go: “hey, where did you get your shoes?”
It’s a lot more creepy.
BONUS TIP: Don’t be creepy. (this also includes following girls around and staring at them and lingering around them)
Every question or request you ask, if you give a reason, they will be MUCH more receptive to you.
STEP 3: MAKE THEM LIKE YOU
When I used to drink a lot, I would use alcohol as a crutch to talk to girls.
I think the majority of men and women do this.
I did this because it made me less worried about what people thought of me. When I cared less about what people thought of me, I was able to do and say things I normally wouldn’t do and I’d have more success at having people like me.
THIS IS THE WORST APPROACH TO TALKING TO PEOPLE.
Why?
Because you will become reliant on alcohol to meet people.
It took me a year to learn how to talk to girls WITHOUT alcohol.
Don’t do it the wrong way.
Learn it the right way, and you’ll never have to relearn it again.
So how do you get people (especially the person you like) to like you?
This is the step where I don’t believe there is a formula better than experience.
But there is a simple principle you can follow to help you grow quickly and strive for.
You need to enjoy it.
Don’t worry about other people ( I know it will be hard at first).
Talk about what you like.
Talk about things that make YOU laugh.
If you learn how to enjoy yourself wherever you are, you will attract people with the energy you put out.
You don’t have to be the funniest person in the world.
You don’t need to be the most confident person in the world.
You NEED to be the best version of you.
I’ll give you an example.
When I would talk to people, I made sure to talk about funny things I thought were funny.
Because I was talking about things I enjoyed, if they had the same interests, there would be a massively better chance we’d have a connection.

When I went up to Alina, I didn’t know what she liked or what her personality was.
I went straight up to her and talked to her.
We talked about travel, photography, and being vegetarians.
We shared some of the same interests so I asked her out on a date.
If I had talked to her about things like politics or partying (things I don’t enjoy but thought she might) I doubt we would have hit it off.
I’m not telling you to only talk about things you want.
Talk about things that are interesting to them, but in a way that is interesting to you.
STEP 4: RINSE AND REPEAT
I think the best lessons are simple and easy to remember.
If you do the above 3 steps, OVER AND OVER AND OVER again, you will quickly become ready to talk to the girl of your dreams.
Keep using the above steps to begin talking to people you feel a little uncomfortable with.

When you feel that twinge of discomfort in your chest, that’s when your timer for the 5 SECOND RULE starts.
BONUS STEP: ADVANCED TECHNIQUE
When I felt pretty confident talking to anyone / anywhere, I had my friends help me continue growing.
If you’re ready for this step, this is A GREAT WAY to continue your growth.
Tell your friends they have the power to point out ANY person for you to talk to. If you don’t walk up to them in 5 seconds, wherever you are, you need to do 10 pushups. On the spot.
My friends loved this game. I think I lost once, ended up doing 10 pushups in the middle of a restaurant and ended up talking to a table full of girls anyways.
Here’s the thing, all these experiences made me ready to approach Alina when I saw her.
If I hesitated, I’d never have met her.

Will you hesitate next time?
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HOW I OVERCAME SHYNESS
I am a shy person who is also a confident and (if I may say it of myself!) successful public speaker. Carrying yourself with confidence is like any other skill, it can be developed by way of very consistent and mindful practice. A graduate school friend of mine and I made a compact when we were very young-looking female graduate students that we would each ask a question at every talk we went to. And yes, at first your hand shakes when you have it in the air and your voice shakes as you ask your question - but these symptoms will diminish over the course of years, and now I am almost always the first or second question-asker at any interesting talk I attend. Ditto for parties or social gatherings: at some point I realized that there was always at least one person in the room who was even shyer and less comfortable than I was, and that if I went and talked to that person and tried to help them become more comfortable, we would both be having a nicer time than we would otherwise. So - practice, practice, practice! And remember that when you are enrolled in a seminar or discussion session, part of being a good student is participating in discussion; or if you’re currently too shy to speak in class, make yourself go to office hours and let the prof know that you would like some help figuring out how to be a good contributor in class conversations.
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CERTAIN OTHER OTHER TRUTHS FROM A DIFFERENT LIGHT
1. Some people are born with a golden spoon. Nothing can harm them ever.

2. Be in a relationship with a person who has the same stature as you. Let it be financially or educationally. Otherwise it will never ever last (in India at-least).
3. People whose lives are amazing tend to be deliberately negative.
4. People will forget you as soon as they become busy. You are valuable as long as they have no one else to talk to
If you help anyone, its highly likely they would end up with the cake and you, with an empty plate. Then you end up regretting helping them. So think twice before helping people who are your competitors.
5. The karma shit never works on other people. It only works on you. If you do bad to someone, it will come and bite you in your backside. Others just go scotfree.
6. People who show extreme attitude and who are always rude are the ones most sought after in any group. The most adjusting one is the most ignored one.

7. All the positive quotes on the internet is written by people who have achieved all the successes in life. Its easy to say things after you achieve your goal. So just ignore that shit.
8. Money is everything. Without that, you are just another living organism who had hardly any value among your peers and relatives.
People will hardly give a fuck about you after they achieve what they want.

9. You would be recognized only by the degree you hold and the amount of money you have.

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